Prayers For Marriage Of J. And R.
Please pray for my marriage. We have had problems over the years but adultery was never one of them. We both made mistakes. We both did things to hurt the marriage. But adultery was never one of them.
Two months ago my husband began an emotional affair with someone from work. The feelings for this woman were developing over about the month before that. He has blamed even being left open to something like that on mistakes I've made (never once anything like infidelity, but messing up our finances and trying to hide it from him), but this relationship of theirs has just been developing and developing.
It started with him figuring how to get to a work party without me so he could spend time talking to her. They exchanged phone numbers just to "make sure they got home okay." But it pretty immediately turned into them texting for hours at at time, sometimes when I was right there in the room with him.
In the past month, there have now also been a few occasions of very long phone calls between them. He has told me that he thinks he's in love with her, and she has told him she has the same feelings for him. They are both frustrated because it's his being married that is keeping them from pursuing something more.
Ironically, so much of what he loves about her - has been things he once loved about me. But because we have had a sometimes difficult marriage and have dealt with a lot of
struggles, all that has worn on him. It's like she's his chance at a clean slate, the chance at happiness.
Most people privy to the situation believe it to be infatuation. I feel it has a touch of midlife crisis as well. I want the marriage to work out -- I am not sure he does.
We have talked and talked. I have been praying like crazy. I pray for him, for her, for our marriage, for our kids, constantly. I have been trying to fight for our marriage even when his mindset has been that he just wants to end things with me and move on with her.
We'll make progress then face setbacks. But after this past weekend things seemed to finally be looking up for us. Until this week when I got a call from our financial institution that bad activity by me with our account is most likely going to result in our services being completely cut off.
As my issues with our finances have been a recurring problem that have eaten away at my husband for many years, and it was his mindset that he was done with us but was only staying in it for the kids before he started connecting with this other woman, I have huge reason to believe that unless something miraculous happens with our financial institution, this is going to be it for us.
I truly feel that we are under attack. Satan loves to find our weakest points and dig at them until we surrender. Please pray for us!