22 Year Marriage Needs Restoration
We have been married for 22 years and have had a very good & happy marriage. We have always loved and respected each other, never raised our voices or even fought. But, my husband filed for divorce last year and blindsided me with it. In a million years, I never thought that this would happen to us.
We both work at the same place and work is what has changed my husband from the happy and caring person that he is. The man we both have worked for the last 6 years is the reason my husband has changed. This man is very envious and jealous of my husband. This man is very insecure and has a need to be loved and liked, he has even said this. This man is also very arrogant and very abusive of his position.
My husband is very well liked and respected by the workforce because he is very good at his job, very knowledgeable and very caring towards his employees. Because my husband is liked and respected, this causes this man to mistreat, abuse and challenge every action my husband makes at work. This constant attack has finally taken its toll on my husband to the point that he is physically sick and full of anger and resentment.
For about 4-5 months before he filed for divorce, my husband started to take out his anger on me. He would make ugly and hurtful comments to me. Comments that were uncalled for. It hurt me terribly, but I never responded to his insults, I just kept quiet, because I knew of the stress that he was under. I just prayed and hoped that everything would change for the better. I was afraid to ask him what was wrong, but even if I did start to ask, he would clam up.
He never talked to me that he was unhappy with me, and he never gave me the courtesy to say that he wanted a divorce.
Although, he kept telling me that he still loves me. And when I would ask him to tell me to my face that he wanted this divorce, he would refuse and say he was confused.
Since all this began, God has given me miracles that lead me to believe that he does not want us to get a divorce. Truly He has. God stopped the divorce 1 week before we were to go to court. There have been several things that have happened that I proclaim as miracles from God.
However, despite the miracles, my husband has not come home, even though since the divorce was postponed, we have spent almost everyday together, I feel his love grow towards me again, but something keeps him from coming home.
Today he had a telephone interview for a job in another city. I don't know what to think or what to pray for. I don't want him going to another city, but I want him to be happy, I want him to become again, the wonderful, happy man that I know and love. I know that God has led me to believe that he wants us to stay together, that it's not just me wanting to hold on to my husband.
Please pray for us, pray for the salvation of our marriage, our home and our family. That my husband doesn't get selected for this job (I hope that's not a sin). But if it end up being God's will, then please pray that I have the strength to let my husband go. I am nearly 60 years old, and I don't know how I will survive financially without him, but I know that I can trust our Lord.
Please Lord Savior speak to me and give a sign that everything will come to a happy end, and fill my husband with the Holy Spirit to guide him with healthy & loving thoughts so that he will make healthy and loving decisions in Jesus name.